Joseph's "Just My Thoughts"

When you’re in a relationship, you shouldn’t judge the person based on how they treat you or others, but rather on how they treat themselves. Because when someone treats themselves well, they are unlikely to deceive themselves. This is also because, even if they do deceive themselves, you can often see the flaws in their contradictions in their appearance. Self-development and building relationships all begin within oneself. What I think of myself is the most important benchmark in my life. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

As a family, there are things we can do and things we cannot do. According to the level of intimacy, actions that are appropriate and those that are not are classified based on the type or nature of the relationship. Our actions are limited by relationships . Relationships influence behavior. Ignoring this is called ‘ immorality .’ It is foolish to believe we can do everything by our will. Human beings are destined to do what is proper within a relationship and avoid what should not be done. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

In <What Is Life?>, written by Lynn Margulis and Dorion Sagan , there is an expression, “Independence is a political term, not a scientific term.” Independence is the state in which a person can live alone without help or influence from others, using their own strength and ability. The condition of being physically separated from the community is called “isolation.” Independence and isolation are different. Isolation should not be mistaken for independence. To exclude influence and secure autonomy is independence, while deliberately cutting off relationships is isolation. Independence is based on achievement; isolation is based on hurt. To grow, you must be independent, not isolated. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

If you are intelligent, your chances of becoming wealthy are relatively high, but being smart alone doesn’t necessarily make you rich. Wealth can only be achieved when other vital factors come into play, such as those who understand how to judge legal rights in transactions beyond just intelligence, and those who can establish governance or maintain relationships. Luck refers to a situation where all these different conditions are easily satisfied. This happens when I acquire it because all important and diverse conditions align at the same moment and place. Therefore, a deal or opportunity that genuinely works for me shouldn’t be complicated. The more complicated it is, the more likely I am to be scammed . The human brain is wired to seek simplicity. Our brains consistently choose efficiency. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

Human relationships can break down in an instant, but most are the result of long-term mistrust . Likewise, reliability is built over time. A single special trigger can initiate this breakdown, with all outcomes being a continuous accumulation of small factors. When you reflect on your relationship, you may identify a certain pattern by reconsidering what earned your partner’s trust and what let them down. That pattern reveals my true self exposed to the outside. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

Human relationships are intertwined, so loving and being loved cannot be quantified. There is rarely a scenario where love is given or received unilaterally. When someone with little experience in accepting love from others tries to love, their affection is likely to be selfish. Dedicating oneself to a loved one while refusing to accept that person’s devotion is akin to accepting a child’s cute movements while disliking their grumblings. Establishing an artificial relationship and preventing it from evolving beyond superficiality merely highlights one’s selfishness. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

Even if I have too many human relationships, many of them are not directly connected to me. Therefore, many people believe that they only need a few good companions by their side. In other words, human relationships also involve probability. This thought presents a problem, too, because the choice of who qualifies as “good people” and the ability to strengthen those relationships isn’t entirely in my hands. Most of the time, the reason I can’t escape all the conflicts and hardships is that I can’t take control of my life independently. Thus, we are very fragile creatures. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”