Longing: A lonely heart can be filled by someone, but a longing heart is a heart that cannot be filled by ‘the particular person.’ When the mind feels strange, it is important to first determine whether the feeling stems from a lack of self-generated needs or from not being filled by the object of longing. Loneliness can progress easily, but longing carries a high risk of self-destruction if not handled carefully. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
From a neuroscience perspective , the object I love, devote myself to, and sacrifice for is an ‘ extension of myself .’ The brain is inherently selfish. Selfishness is a necessary emotion and attitude for survival . Only when I exist can others exist. Yet, we often see people making sacrifices for others . How can I love someone other than myself? What I dedicate and sacrifice for someone is what my brain perceives as an ‘ extended me .’ Ultimately, loving others is an extension of loving myself. Therefore, self-love becomes a foundation and a tool for loving others. If ‘self-love’ is healthy, then loving others is healthy too. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”