In <What Is Life?>, written by Lynn Margulis and Dorion Sagan, there is an expression, “Independence is a political term, not a scientific term.” Independence is the state in which a person can live alone without help or influence from others, using their own strength and ability. The condition of being physically separated from the community is called “isolation.” Independence and isolation are different. Isolation should not be mistaken for independence. To exclude influence and secure autonomy is independence, while deliberately cutting off relationships is isolation. Independence is based on achievement; isolation is based on hurt. To grow, you must be independent, not isolated. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
When you are betrayed and hurt by someone, there are times when you want to hide or be alone in silence. You want to cut yourself off from the world and just live in your own space. You don’t want to harm others, and you don’t want to be hurt either. At this point, temptation arises. The desire to choose a solitary, self-sufficient way of life is stirring. Never choose to be self-sufficient. As time goes by, it becomes more difficult for you, the one who has been hurt, and the likelihood of further injuries increases. Self-sufficiency is not the life we are meant to live today. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”