Israeli Kindergarten. Dual-income couples often arrived late to pick up their children. As a result, the kindergarten implemented a rule that parents would face a fine if they were late; however, even though this introduced a penalty system, it also led to more delays in pickup times. By replacing feelings of guilt with money, paying a fee for being late became the new norm. After recognizing the mistake and removing the fine system, what happened? More parents started arriving late. When money becomes involved, the exchange of value fundamentally changes the nature of the relationship. And once that change occurs, it doesn’t revert. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
Human relationships can break down in an instant, but most are the result of long-term mistrust . Likewise, reliability is built over time. A single special trigger can initiate this breakdown, with all outcomes being a continuous accumulation of small factors. When you reflect on your relationship, you may identify a certain pattern by reconsidering what earned your partner’s trust and what let them down. That pattern reveals my true self exposed to the outside. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”