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Just my thoughts #0435

There exist two categories of leaders: those who prioritize individuals and those who prioritize circumstances. Which category do you fall into? Leaders who prioritize circumstances may easily overlook the needs of individuals, driven by an underlying fear of adverse outcomes impacting them. Ultimately, those who favor circumstances above individuals exhibit a tendency to prioritize self-protection over the welfare of those they lead. In contrast, leaders who prioritize individuals, even amidst challenging situations, demonstrate the qualities of exemplary leadership. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

Just my thoughts #0315

Life can feel joyful when we have many close relationships, but this often gradually brings more anguish as well. Intimacy is also crucial to us, yet just as much as it is, “blatant ignorance” and a “healthy dose of distance” significantly influence our happiness. For instance, I can’t eat meat from a slaughtered cow that I have carefully nursed, but I am content eating the meat from a cow that I did not nurture. The fact that I have made money means my gains are a return for the damages of someone unknown to the economic system of this world, yet I can only be happy because I do not know adequately. Without blatant ignorance and a healthy dose of distance , our happiness deteriorates terribly. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

Just my thoughts #0097

Knowing someone and being friendly with someone are two very different things. Two main ways to build relationships with main motives are affiliation and intimacy. "Affiliation motivation" is the psychological action of getting along with others to avoid rejection. The "intimacy motive" is to increase intimacy with a select few and establish a stable relationship. It would be mentally strained to have more than 10 to 15 relationships. If you feel burdened by human relationships, you must examine your treatment of people with "affinity." The fear of being rejected is what drives the mind. - Joseph’s "just my thoughts”