Psychologist Robert Epstein published a paper in 2002 that found that many couples who do not marry, due to affection being the main cause, such as in arranged marriages, develop romantic relationships with greater affection over time than couples who marry for love. In other words, love doesn’t change us; rather, when we change our behavior, greater love emerges. If you change your mind, your behavior will change, but in fact, if you change your behavior, it seems more reasonable to change your mind. Actions influence the mind. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
A wise person advises us not to hold grudges against anyone in our lives. This is because if I foster a grudge, even if it’s physically disconnected from each other, that grudge will eventually interfere with my life. Blessings and grudges also operate beyond my time. It’s just problematic because it doesn’t align with the timing I desire, and our lives are intertwined with an inevitable fate that transcends time in this way. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”