Expectations and disappointments stem from the same root. External factors do not separate expectations from disappointments; rather, internal factors do. We can’t easily stop losing if we lose a little because expectations remain. Moreover, we’re not satisfied with small profits; we want more. In other words, greed is the root of both expectations and disappointments. It’s wrong to say that you’re disappointed because you expect it. Since they share the same root, expectations and disappointments only intersect depending on the situation. With a big loss, you lose patience, and with a big profit, you feel happy only then. Large gains or losses are hard to sustain, but small, everyday victories are easier to maintain because our brains are wired that way. Big negative events often result from a series of small bad outcomes, while big happiness comes from accumulating small joys. Our life is about continuously pushing forward with small but steady steps. Repeating small decisions can le...
In fact, more often than not, a multitude of thoughts leads to a choice disorder, primarily because you don’t know yourself well. Self-needs are easily recognized, yet many individuals lack awareness of their desires. Desire is often intricately wrapped in morality, making it more likely that you remain oblivious to it. If you don’t understand what you want, you’ll hesitate to make a choice. This results in the worry that your choices won’t satisfy desires you ’ re unaware of. Having a healthy mind entails honestly aligning your choices and decisions with your desires. Nevertheless, morality, dignity, and concern for others often hinder honest choices. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”