Joseph's "Just My Thoughts"

If you think that ‘expressing love is all about love,’ your eyes will not be able to see the other person properly. If you haven’t truly contemplated love, you won’t have the ability to judge whether someone genuinely considers me. In this scenario, there is a high possibility that it will become one of those relationships where the other person is used to beg for affection or is deceived by coaxing . Thinking about love begins with clearly defining what it means to be human in one’s mind. If this premise is flawed, then the feeling of love can destroy the relationship between the two; people may end up blaming the lover. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

Psychologist Robert Epstein published a paper in 2002 that found that many couples who do not marry, due to affection being the main cause, such as in arranged marriages , develop romantic relationships with greater affection over time than couples who marry for love. In other words, love doesn’t change us; rather, when we change our behavior, greater love emerges. If you change your mind, your behavior will change, but in fact, if you change your behavior, it seems more reasonable to change your mind. Actions influence the mind. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

Human relationships are intertwined, so loving and being loved cannot be quantified. There is rarely a scenario where love is given or received unilaterally. When someone with little experience in accepting love from others tries to love, their affection is likely to be selfish. Dedicating oneself to a loved one while refusing to accept that person’s devotion is akin to accepting a child’s cute movements while disliking their grumblings. Establishing an artificial relationship and preventing it from evolving beyond superficiality merely highlights one’s selfishness. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

Affection lacking temperance can turn into violence at any time. No matter how much you love, the other person may not ideally match your expectations, so the time comes when the beloved one wants to avoid the affection you’re pouring out or keep away for a while. A relationship that lacks experience in building trust through moderation has no power to continue when dissatisfaction and regret arise. A healthy relationship involves trusting that temperance is not rejection. Relationships, after all, are energy and power. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”