Longing: A lonely heart can be filled by someone, but a longing heart is a heart that cannot be filled by ‘the particular person.’ When the mind feels strange, it is important to first determine whether the feeling stems from a lack of self-generated needs or from not being filled by the object of longing. Loneliness can progress easily, but longing carries a high risk of self-destruction if not handled carefully. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
When someone has done nothing wrong and yet their partner quietly ends the relationship, it’s common for people to question themselves, asking, “What did I do wrong?” However, this quiet disconnection often stems from various factors, not just a lack of goodwill or personal fault. A person distressed by this separation may still harbor deeper emotional wounds. The quiet end of a relationship is not a reflection of anyone’s wrongdoing but is tied to the unique circumstances each individual faces. In such cases, it’s prudent to simply view each other as “unsuited.” Avoid feeling unjustly victimized; instead, let’s remind ourselves, “I’m still a good person.” - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”